Almost a year! It is hard to believe! It seems so much shorter and yet so much longer at the same time. What a journey.
Ab has came so far in such a short amount of time. When we first met in Ethiopia last summer:
- He knew about 8 english words.
- He wasn’t quite sure about anything.
- He was having hard crying and grieving episodes at night, so much so that he would break out into awful sweats covering him.
- At our co-op, in the one class he took, he would sit and listen and then randomly say some strange word…whatever english word that came to mind!
- He was unsure of our love…and felt he needed to earn it at all times.
- He had to be with mom at all times and pouted if he couldn’t sit beside me.
- Didn’t know how to play with toys or just be by himself. Seriously.
- He is reading small books and trying to sound out everything!
- Will try anything and has confidence.
- While he is still sad at times, the episodes have tapered and he no longer re-lives and grieves at night. He talks to us much more. I am sure this will go through stages.
- At the end of our co-op, Mrs. Joy said that he was telling so many stories she had to make him wait until end of class!
- He is more sure of our love..I am still not sure that he knows he doesn’t need to earn it.
- He chooses to go with dad instead of mom, especially if a truck ride is involved!
- He will go off and play for quite a long while now---trains, cars, and bike…yep, all boy!
There are still quite a few things that trouble him and we are working on. He was quite worried about my feet when they were sore and kept asking if they would get better. (understandable considering his history) He also recently got very upset when he had to wait to eat breakfast (due to medication). He was VERY stressed to the point of breaking out into a sweat (I mean sweat pouring off his head and neck) and laying down. It was a very irrational response (though for him, it was rational). Things like that make me very sad.
He is learning, we are learning, the kids are learning. We are all in process of learning to selflessly love even when we don’t ‘feel’ like it. Some days we do great, other days we fail miserably. Thankfully, His mercies are new every morning!